I've known Matthew for about 10 years. He was one of my first instructors and also my mentor at the Dojo where I train in Kenpo Karate. This turned out to be a position he has continued to embrace throughout the years. I follow Matthew on Facebook, and was watching when he announced he was coaching. It seemed like perfect timing. I responded, we talked, it was a no-brainer, and I became a client.
Before we started our coaching sessions, I had a good job that I enjoyed and made good money. I had sweet loving pets, a home, my own car, friends, family, another family at the Dojo, plenty of food, heat, clothing and everything a person needs to survive. And yet, I felt like the world was crashing down on me if I wasn't fighting every second of every minute of every day to keep it all at bay. I was constantly anxious and exhausted and also dealing with some sizable health issues that required regular doctor's visits.
After only a few months of coaching, I still had a good job and I was now making more good money! I had my sweet loving pets, my home, my own car, friends, family, another family at the Dojo, plenty of food, heat, clothing, and every thing a person needs to thrive....And joy! And peace! And calm! And laughter, and love, and fearlessness, and the ability to give and receive, love myself. My health had improved so dramatically and I no longer needed to see my doctor with the same regularity! I do what I want, and my life is soooo damn sweet.
When a person spends all their energy holding everything at bay, there is no space for the good stuff to get in. As Matthew created the space for me to knock down my fears, good stuff started flowing in. Example: briefly, I was concerned for my job. When I got real clear that I had a plan, and everything was always working out for me, and that I did not in fact need to worry about keeping that job because there are other options, not only did I not lose the job, I received a nice raise. :-) Example: My old dog is old, and has health issues. I know I'm going to lose her someday. But. She's still here now, enjoying life, and she's still with me. When I stopped worrying about having to mourn her someday, I started enjoying her today. The best thing is, now that I'm not so worried about her every minute of every day, she's more relaxed, and getting healthier.
It's not magic, it's just learning how to look at something from a different perspective, and this is a Gift that Matthew gives people.
Matthew's coaching (for me, it might be different with someone else) is laid back, humorous, appreciative, focused, and unique. He is at once a rock and a safe place to land, he stands for me, he believes in me, and he is completely non-judgemental. He doesn't give advice, he creates the space for me to see things in a different way. I like to say "he unstuck me. " :-) Matthew has shared with me some tools that work in my day-to-day life to help keep myself focused on my awesomeness and the awesomeness of this existence. They work.
Believe him when he says he will stand for your greatness. He is The Terminator of standing for you - he will never give up, and he will never stop until you have what you want. ;-)
Linda Myers; Configuration Management Specialist and Animal Advocate _________________________________________________________________________________________________________
I have done three of Matthew’s small group, five week programs. Matthew’s guidance was so helpful in helping me live more in the moment. He got me to focus on what is my context or story, so I could nicely pack all the inessential noise in my life away to focus on being present. He listens intently and hears/highlights the beauty and love in what others say. His gentle guidance to doing more of what you love and loving yourself in the process, is a huge reminder that so many of us need. He definitely has helped me experience a child-like innocence and wonder about the world and appreciation that I haven’t accessed in a long time. Matthew attracts great people for his work. In a very short time, I felt connection and love in our group.
Donna Dutcher; Pro SE Staff Attorney _________________________________________________________________________________________________________
Matthew Solomon has been one of most effective coaches I have had the pleasure of working with. He is highly reliable, surprisingly intuitive and very charismatic. He is the coach you actually WANT to contact to get direction and clarity in the moments you feel overwhelmed and stuck. He always has a fresh and clear perspective, and lovingly and logically points you in the right direction, usually just by asking the right questions and getting you to see other options, and to prioritize your commitments and your goals in a more clear way. He guides you in a way where you, yourself, come up with several other possibilities, and see most effective ways of attaining your goals.
Matthew is a person of high integrity and holds you to the same standard, without any judgments or make-wrongs, which is an art. He is always calm, collected and kind. With Matthew you always know, you have a rock you can lean on and you know he has your back. In his relationship with you, you know that love is always present, and you feel respected and acknowledged, as well as valued. In fact I can say, you really grow as a human being in his presence...And that is a rarity. In one word, he is a gem.
Setareh Bahri; High School Math Teacher _________________________________________________________________________________________________________
Matthew was my coach in a 6 month leadership training program two years ago. When I met Matthew, I assumed I was pretty good with leadership qualities and just needed a little "brush up". ( Let's say I was slightly arrogant, and a touch resistant!) I had regular weekly calls and meetings with Matthew, (these were NOT always fun..but had me really take a look at what was stopping me in my life.) I quickly discovered I wasn't as skilled as I had assumed I was, and I began to see, in fact, how jaded and complacent I really had become at that point in life. (That certainly wasn't going to have me inspire others or be an effective leader.) I was quite unaware of this. I thought I knew it all, or most of it, anyway.
One of the biggest shifts in my confidence and effectiveness was in a test where I was required to do some public speaking. I called Matthew a few hours beforehand to inform him that I would not be participating (I was willing to take a "fail" that evening). Matthew, quite gently, encouraged me to confront my fears and take it on. It was a challenge, and the way he presented it, it almost sounded fun. (He nailed it..--I was terrified!). I finally, somewhat reluctantly, agreed to do it. I did some work polishing my talk, walked through what I call the "wall of fear", and just went for it...just for the fun of it...even if I failed miserably. I gave a very confident 1 hour presentation, scoring one of the higher grades, proving to myself that I could really move beyond my fears. It was a very exhilarating experience! That single encouragement and memory of my success and confidence in that moment has permanently transformed the way in which I now speak to others, as well as groups, and confidently take on leadership roles in my life and career.
Matthew coached and assisted me in going way beyond who I had come to known myself as, beyond my own self imposed limitations, and I am grateful to him for his passion, and dedication to his work.
George Foster; Musician and Educator _________________________________________________________________________________________________________
I wanted to write something epic that would do some justice to the huge impact Matthew has made in my life and I'm struggling to find the right way to say it. Matthew gave me so many tools and insights that I continue to use everyday. Whenever I experience stress or overwhelm, I am able to shift it to power and ease by remembering his coaching. His presence alone is such a clearing and he allows me to experience myself as whole, complete, and perfect. He is a powerful, calm, and loving stand for you at all times and is able to meet you wherever you are. Since working with Matthew, my life has transformed and I'm truly living the life I used to dream about. I used to never speak up in meetings or raise my hand in class, and I'm now confident speaking to a large group of people, leading teacher trainings in Thailand as a Peace Corps Volunteer.
Kaori Cierra Yamamoto; Peace Corps Volunteer, Educator and Founder of "Big Kid's Play Day." _________________________________________________________________________________________________________
Matthew is a very compassionate human being. He has always been there for me, no matter what. He is understanding, kind, strong, and a "no non-sense" person. As a Coach and a fellow human being he has never made me wrong. His coaching style is unique. He is very skilled at getting into my world and to see what is missing, the presence of which would make a real difference for me. I use his coaching day in, day out in my every day life. I highly recommend Matthew Solomon as a Coach.
Suresh Sakhamuru; Controller, Accountant and Advisor _________________________________________________________________________________________________________